WONDER WHAT IS ON THE OTHER SIDE?
Ever had the experience of where you realize that something that you used to make you feel good ... an outfit, a place or even a person ... does not seem to fit right or feeling as good as they once did? What happened to it while I wasn't looking?
I have been having that experience the last time.
When this happens, I usually try to deny or to work through the introduction of a lot of effort to recapture what I am losing. I will make it work, I say ... which of course is just asking for more frustration, but then, I'm a slow learner.
Often I felt naked & vulnerable if it feels like things that have changed things are things that make me feel safe. I resent that I don't have a choice that my "white" are w going away.
With much resistance..
It started to happen last autumn when I had some health challenges and was advised to slow down some and not work so hard. I knew it was good advice and although difficult to put into practice, I liked the idea. And thought that it would be great to have more time for myself.
So I started with some (many) of the resistance, to let go of some projects and commitments.
When the winter came, I enjoyed some winter sleep but still loved my long list of "tasks". The silence voiced kept asking me, "who would you do without all the?" It was scary to think that.
But by the spring, I began to get restless and felt "fenced" by all the shoulds "most &" I built around me.
Reluctantly started to happen to me all the "obligations" gave me some identity as well as kept me very busy with no time to look around.
The "safe places" no longer appropriate or felt so good.
And while that is very good for a long time was, I could also see that it also kept me in one place. My protection "fences" had, in some respects, was barriers. The "safe places" no longer appropriate or felt so good.
I began to see that I needed to slow down, so I initially could pay. But now I needed to clear some room to grow. ... I needed more wide open spaces and fewer fences.
If every day is filled, it leaves little room for exploring the creation of &.
What would my life be if I could release a bit and space for new and old dreams open to appear? And if I allow myself to feel a bit insecure and naked could, maybe I could take some of my "fear fence" ... and I could have a great new view!
So now if I take baby steps in exploring some new areas, I play the old cowboy song, "Don't Fence Me In" and the Dixie Chicks beautiful song "Wide Open spaces" celebrate.
They remind me that there are only in our fences outgrow, that we really are free
Jeannie Fennel, Ph.d. "Transitions Specialist" http://lifeworksonline.net/
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